Discipline (hidings) - your opinion

Discipline is a difficult topic, but hubby and I believe in very strict discipline with Hanco and yes we also believe in giving hidings, but we also have adopted the "naugty chair" (thanks to Super Nanny). And up to date we have received a lot of good and positive compliments regarding our child's behaviour

I am not a mommy but I was brought up with hidings and I turned out pretty okay I think.

Obviously I don't believe in beating my child to death. I think that a hiding here and there if used correctly is fine. Also the one thing that I see often and it drives me mad as it is not fair on the child is an inconsitency in discipline.

If you discipline a child I think you do have to be totally consistent otherwise you confuse the poor kid!

We were brought up with hidings when we misbehaved and our children will be too when deserved. My hubby and I share the same views on bringin up children fortunately! He is a teacher and is quite traditional in his thinking, as am I. As to when it starts - I'm not sure. They will have to be old enough to understand why they are getting a smack. At the moment I am just trying to teach them the meaning of the word "No!"

yip same here was discplined and often given a hiding when there was a need for one and am doing the same with D ... and he also gets punished by being sent to his room if he was very naughty ...

on the other hand I also have rewards systems in place especially if he wants something expensive he has to work for it and by that I mean bath time is bath time, homework should be done unless he doesnt understand, school shoes should be polished, bag should be packed and report card should always be a good one ...

it can be very difficult to implement but once u have the hang of it it does work out ...

he also know that he cannot play playstation during the weekend but from Friday after his homework is done of course until Sunday about lunch time its fine ...

I think when they are so little a little tap here and there or a smack on their nappy is enough to give them the fright the need to reaslise it is wrong.

The other day I raised my voice at Keagan cause he was doing something naughty and poor Kayla burst out crying! It was not even that loud but the tone was obviously enough to make her think she was in trouble. I felt so bad. Keagan just turned and grinned! I think we are going to have fun with that one! LOL

Michmac... sometimes it is easy to let the little things slide but the bigger things are easier to keep consistant.

I have a friend who has 4 kids (it is fine now) but in the past she would smack one kid for doing something and if the other did it she didn't and vice versa. It must have been very confusing for them!

We are also believers in well-deserved smacks. on this topic, I recently read a book by dr James Dobson, which is very good. In it he has various arguments for and against it, but in the end there are some situations that you can't let slide. He also says that 18 months is the minimum age and there should never be left marks. He also advises use of something like a naughty spoon, exactly for Mich's reason. And also, he says that you should distinguish between inquisitiveness vs a child pushing the borders, the latter is never to be let slide. I also watched supper nanny, and I thing some of her methods are quite good, and that each child should be handled differently. for instance, whereas miss D need a firm hand, Olivia cries when I admonish miss D, so she doesn't need as much to get her to behave.