Think we gonna have a problem

Montinique is so jealous of Montiné and I don't know how to handle this because they are so small.

Montiné has always been the quite one, minding her own business but if she is playing with her toys Montinique will go to her and grap it from her, if I raise my voice and tell her that it is wrong she yell at me, yes ladies as small as she is she yell back at me!!

Over the weekend I notice if I pick Montiné up she will crawl to me, put herself up against my leg and cry until I pick her up, her poor sister just have to be happy with getting little attention at this stage and it is not nice to do that.

Montiné notice that if her sister cry we will pick her up so now she is also doing that and it can get tricky if both cry, I am alone, only two hands and have very active girls to pick up and if I pick them up they pull each others hair.

How do you hadle this or is it only a stage that they go through?

Sterkte vrou, ek weet nie wat om vir jou te se nie.

Dankie man, hoop maar iemand kan raad gee, voel so sleg as ek met haar baklei maar sy moet maar van klein af weet dit is verkeerd. Arme Montiné is so sag geaard, sy gee maar net die speelgoed!

Yikes... dunno what to do there. Maybe one of the other twin moms can help. I would do the hard arse thing and try and make her learn that there has to be equal attention but it is easier said than done. Also you don't want to break her character.. maybe she is just a stronger and more domineering character!

That you can say again Sheena, she is domination everything. I don't want to leave her because then she will think it is right and I also don't want to fight with her the whole time.

Hi Melanie

Sorry - don't have any advice - my babies are at different stages of development and have very different temperaments. Hopefully it's just a phase and will pass soon? Hang in there!

Montinque is duidelik die sterk geaarde een tussen die tweetjies, probeer om die boek kweek kinders met karakter te kry, dit dal jou veral help om hul persoonlikhede te verstaan en hoe om hulle op te voed daar volgens! vir nou dink ek probeer om 15min ekstra in n dag saam met Montine te spandeer en maak seker dat Montinque weet dat jy nie dit goed keer dat sy haar sussie 'afknou' nie, Sterkte!
p.s probeer exclusive books ekt myne daar gekoop!

Oh dear they are difficult are they not. my two are exactly the same. I think it is better that Montine is learning to cry for attention too. I sometimes sit next to the boys when they both want to be held and they each get one arm. often they are happy with this and play happily with my arm round them. Also sometimes I lie behind them they feel secure with me touching them and that way I can be with them at the same time.

Sometimes I distract K with something he loves like the walking ring while i hold C. But also I make DH do his share of holding one while I hold the other.

Hope this helps, I know what you are going through, it is tough cause you hate the idea of one of them missing out.

Shame Melanie, it sounds hectic - can't be easy. Maybe it is a phase, hopefully it passes soon if it is

Thnaks ladies

Ek sal bietjie gaan kyk, dankie Lilly. Lilly ek moet bieg ek skiet haar op haar handjie met my vinger en sê nee dit is nie reg nie, dit klink dalk wreed maar dit is al hoe sy gaan leer, sy het so sterk persoonlikheid al is sy so klein

Kerry it is so good to know I am not the only one with this problem. They say with twins is get better when they get older but boy oh boy they need much more attention and start to get aware of what is going on. I just hope it pass very fast or that we get a solution for the problem!!

Melanie - you could be talking about my boys! They are 5 months old and they are exactly the same - Noah is happy to play by himself but Finn demands constant attention. I try to devide my time equally but Finn gets jealous and shouts at me too! Its horrible because you feel bad for the quieter one. Then the second problem I worry about is over compensating with Noah and giving Finn too little attention! what a nightmare - just makes you want to run away! xxx

Mine are getting htere too, if one gets picked up the other starts to cry pityously! Olivia also does it when Rachel takes her toys. Luckily no anger though. I play it by ear according to the situation but I have also heard that one should try do things with each baby by herself, for instance, take one with you to the shops and leave the other one with daddy, next time the other one. The other day I only took Olivia to the dr and it was really nice spending the time just with her!

Boy oh boy this babies of us!!! Well let me tell you, we never have a dull moments.

I must say that the last week they play nicely, all smiles and laughing when they see each other but Montinique is not allowing her sister at all to sit alone with mommy or daddy!