Twins' individuality

I am thinking of separating the twins' clothes and shoes come summer - up to now they have been sharing all their clothing and I meant to start separating thei stuff when they turn 2. However, up to now they have also been wearing a lot of miss D's stuff but we are running out of her old clothes now, and I will basically have to buy a lot of new stuff for the summer. Then, as they will turn 2 in the middle of summer I can just as well start separating them now. This will mean a lot of marking which is which ect, but I think it is important for them to have their own things.

How are you planning to do this? Especially perhaps moms of same-sex twins?

My boys each have thier own bedroom now so I am thinking of putting thier own clothes in thier own rooms.

Also luckily thier colouring is a little different so I am thinking of giving each boy his own colours and some shared colours.

e.g. Kian looks good in white but Connor looks better in cream so if I buy t shirts that is how I will do it. Also connor looks good in warm colours and Kian in cool. but red I will buy for both and navy for both. Then also it is easier for me when shopping but they can wear same things on different days.

When they are old enough( probably 3) they can choose same or different.

My boys will always fit into big brothers clothes and the new clothes that I (seldom) buy them, I buy the same outfits BUT they do not wear them at the same time. It was cute to dress them the same when they were babies but now I believe in the individuality thing... although sometimes I think it is cute for them to be dressed the same still and Dylan get's included in that

They basically already chose what they want to wear, so it is their decsion.

My sisters is twins and there whole life as children they where dress the same, got the same gifts (maybe just another colour) but what one get the other got the same. And when the time come to get married (they even worked at the same place in the same office) (scary I know) they suffer very badly because they believe they can't live without the other one. .

I think there came actually a time when they want to be there own person by choice and they start to explore but then again my sisters don't have a mind of there own They believe whatever my mom told them it is the truth and because she said so they don't need to form there own opinion.

That is scary Ilze. My boys are more reliant on big brother than on each other but they are independent at the same time... I think... I hope!

i think as they get older it is important to help them be individuals but as kids it is OK for them to be the same.

Kerry I couldn't agree more, unfortanatly my sisters was told because they are twins, they don't get to have a life of there own.

Doesn't really apply to me as mine are so different already. I have never dressed them the same (apart from jeans and their little Bafana Bafana shirts) But I'd say go for it - it's important for children to be individual.

On that note I must say I hardly ever refer to my babies as "The Twins" ie a unit. It's usually The Babies or else just Michael & Grace. When people say "how are The Twins?" I actually find it quite irritating. But I do think that being a twin is very special - sort of like having an instant friend for life.

Wendy I must say sometimes that bond that is between them is quit scary, not sure if some of the mommies experiansed it yet,(think it happen a little later in there lifes) But as you said it is still special to be part of a twin

Kerry that is a great idea - giving them colours! Will have to think which gilrie looks better in what!
Ilze, what happened to your sisters is exactly what i want to try and prevent. I have been reading books on how to raise twins, and everyone agrees you have concentrate on giving them their own space and lives. At the same time, you have to cherish and respect the twinbond! Not easy...
Wendy, I agree, it irks me too when people call them the twins - we also go with 'the babies' or their names.

I thought that I was the only one that hated people asking about the twins... when people do, I make a point of saying, "Who, Jason and Grant?" I generally refer to all three as the boys or otherwise by their names

I also feel very strong about each one being an individual person, and always refer to them as "the girls" or "the kids" .
But haven't given the clothes thing much of thought yet....
Up to now i dressed them the same but different colours where possible

But Paula you are right, sooner or later one needs to start thinking of what to do from next year when they are starting to make their own choices to a certain extent.
They will still share a room for a long time but one needs to start thinking about not buying in 2's anymore but different outfits or almost the same but different just to start introducing that individuality!

Thx for the topic... now i have something to ponder on again.

At the moment they grow so quickly i cannot keep up with buying bigger clothes and will de

Wendy, just wanted to say... are WE twins - you and I think alike

I call mine the babies and of course, their names, Kendra and Connor (Kerry - great choice of name!!!).

It is special to have a built-in playmate but they are individuals. Mine are SO different in personality I joke that Connor should have been an only child. Shame! He does like his space

If I had two of the same, I'd do the colour thing - maybe pink for one and purple for the other, or blue and red for boys.

I do this with bottles - Kendra has pink and purple bottles and Connor has blue and green