Peoples Opinions!

Hi Moms, I hope you're all keeping well, I haven't been on here in absolute ages, but I need a bit of advice at the mo pls.
My girls r now 2 years old, and whenever i go to visit friends or playgroup on my own with them, they get so clingy and i have to hold them both, not allowed to sit, can't drink my coffee and it is just so embarrassing! Have had to leave friends houses just because we can't even hear each other talk over my girls crying!
i just tried again to visit a friend this morning and the same thing happened! i didn't feel like fighting with them and the whole mission- all i wanted was to take them to play with her daughter. So i loaded them up then to home! My friends mom says looking and pointing to them loaded up in the car crying that "you have a big problem over there, a big problem"!
What do you think? Does anybody else have a similar problem? Why do they do this?
They fine at my Dh's family and my family's homes and the shop etc.. it's other peoples homes mainly.
Please give me ur opinions

U know, i wouldn't want it any other way - but it is so much easier if maybe u have a clingy child and u go visit with ur child glued to ur hip, u can concentrate on that child and drink ur coffee with ur other hand.

I'm so sorry to complain and bring this up, but i am really upset about what she said!

Hi TraceyB

I am sorry that you having such a hard time. My son is like that. If we with my family or dh's family then he is fine. When I go to other people then he screams blue murder and he is clingy. And yes it is very frustrating.

I think it's got alot to do with them being insecure around other people. I have no advise for you but I can only offer you my empathy. because I know how bad it can be and now you still have 2!

I think it is a phase they go through. Hopefully they will grow out of it soon.

Keagan got very much like that with my sister for a little while. Now the clingyness has gone but EVERYTHING has to be done by mommy. If you offer to pour him juice. NO mommy must do it & if you disobey God forbid. I get sent to the naughty corner on a hourly basis these days.

Good luck. Just hang in there.

Lilian, I'm sorry u're going through a similar situation - it is so difficult - thank u tho, u did make me feel a bit better knowing this is happening to others too.
Thank u Sheena too, i do hope they outgrow this phase soon - feels like it's been going on for ages! We mommies have to be so stong! Keagan sounds so cute, but i'm sure that must be so testing for u too - hope he outgrows that soon too
Thanks ladies

I dont really have much advice, but I really hope its just a phase! My one son, Daniel, was also a bit clingy and needy, but since I implemented a strict sleep training routine, he seems much happier in the day, so I think not enough sleep was part of his problem. But, he is only a year old, so I am not too sure about 2 years.

Please keep us posted!!!

Hi

My girls are now 1 year and 8 months old and Clarice can also be very clingy. She is getting better though. Normally when we go to a play park she will sit on my lap and watch Abigail play and run around and then about 10 min later she will join her sister.
I think they go through phases. One week they want to be independant and the next they don't want to let go of your leg.

I hope it gets better for you soon. My most trying time is normally when they are both clingy and crying ... I have to start singing a song in my head anotherwise I might end up in a mental hospital. Patience is not my strongest point when I want to get something done

Let us know how it goes.

Luv
Zel

I think it is normal separation anxeity. My boys were like that but also get like that when they are not 100% well.

I dont think itis a big problem just tough when you have to hold both.

Hi Tracey

Mine are going through a similar stage. I almost feel like they are competing for my attention. On Saturday night my son was glued to my side and would not leave me alone. My daughter also wants to climb onto my lap and then my son forces her off. I think they just need attention and reassurance. I think they are trying to find themselves and establish theior personalities and identities. I find that if I go anywhere I need to reassure them that I am coming back.

Thank u ladies for all ur advice and thoughts, i really appreciate it!

I then also thought if i send them to daycare maybe 3 mornings a week do you think it would help them maybe get used to being in another place, or they could become a bit more independent being away from me for a little while during the day, possibly? We are on a waiting list, but I'm still unsure on what to do.
I work at home and do find it extremely difficult to get anything done, so it would help me a lot. But then i do also feel a bit silly sending them to daycare with me being at home?
I'm a bit confused and want to do the right thing, but unsure what the right thing to do is?

I dont think there is anything wrong with sending them to daycare even if you are at home. They might be needing some playtime with otherr kids. Maybe start off with a mornings only 3 times a week and see how that goes?

I agree with Eve.

Cathy was still at home when Keagan started going to creché. It was more for him really so that he could play with other kids and learn a bit more as well.

It took him a while to get into it but now he LOVES it. He has made friends, loves the teacher and comes home with the cutest little songs and sayings.

Cath is working half day now so she fetches him when she is done and they have the afternoon together.

It also gives her a bit of a break and gives her a chance to get some stuff done if need be.

Keagan is still his mommy's boy which I don't think will change for a while but he is perfectly happy to go to other people when it suits him.

Thanks so mucha Sheena and Eve

If you are home all day with them I am sure you need a break. My boys went 3 mornings a week from 18 months.

It is tiring when they are going through a needy phase and you need to recharge your batteries.

It is also amazing what they start learning now at school!

Tracy I work from home. There is no way I could get any work done if Nicholas (18 months) was here. He wants me, knows where my office is etc. Wild horses will not keep him away...


Although I dont have a maid / nanny... Not sure of your situation on that front. But I dont believe that I would be able to work with him here even with the most dynamic nanny.

He goes to a day mom til 2 and it is the best thing I ever did.

They are demanding at this age and like the others say, they want mommy's attention. I think they all go through this. I wouldnt worry about what your friend's mom said.