My TTC story

Hi everyone.

My name is Alison and I am new to the forum.

I have been married for 9 years. For most of my life I never wanted children - my hubby always wanted kids, he knew about my feelings when we got married. My mom always told me that I must have kids as my hubby would make an excellent dad, he would probably leave me if I didn't and she said I would be lonely in later life. I told her that I just did not have any desire to have kids - she told me that this would change and I never believed her.

Well at the end of 2007 at the age of 30 I suddenly changed my mind - I realised that I had a lot of love to give and that I wanted to be a mother. I went off the pill in Jan 2008. It is now 3 & a half years later and I have not fallen pregnant. Isn't ironic that for 30 years I did everything possible to NOT fall pregnant and now I would do ANYTHING to be pregnant.

Life has been really hectic in the last month and I haven't really had time to think about baby making. Anyway, I was 2 days late and decided to do a HPT. It was one of those 99% accurate Clearblue Digital tests with the conception indicator. I nearly fainted when I saw the words "Pregnant 1-2" I didn't know what to do. I decided that I should proceed with caution as these tests are not gospel. Against better judgement, I showed it to hubby - he was over the moon! He asked me why I was not jumping for joy. I said I didn't want to get my hopes up and said I would go for a blood test on Saturday. I did 2 more HPT on Saturday - all were negative. And then after being 4 days late, I had the heaviest most painful period of my life.

Was this all a cruel joke? Was this an error? I have been in tears for something I had for one day, just for it to be ripped away the very next day. It has been a really tough 3 and a half years and I just can't understand why life is so unfair.

Hi Aliweb

Welcome to the forum - u are in good company here. So sorry to hear about what happend. Hope you get your BFP soon. Have you been to see a fertility specialist yet ?

Welcome and sorry about what happened. Alot of ladies have been through similar situations and alot of us struggled before getting that BFP. I ttc for 13yrs before getting mine, so we know what a painful journey it is. We will always be here for you and hope you feel welcome.

I am so sorry for what has happen to you . The ladies here are wonderful, you will find loads of support and friendship here. Good luck and do no give up

If you not seeing a fertility specialist you must let us know as alot of us are and we could give you some doctor names

good luck

Hi Ali and welcome. I am so sorry to hear what happened to you
The TTC road is a really crappy one!!

Have you been to see a specialist?
Hope you have a wonderful stay here with us!

Hi and ,yes the ttc is really a cruel and harsh road,bit in the end it will all be worth it.I got my bfp after 8 yrs.
Hope you get urs soon.

Its comforting to hear that I am not alone and that it is still possible!

I haven't seen a specialist yet - my gynae says there is nothing wrong with me - but I suppose it would make sense to get an expert opinion. I work in Sandton - any suggestions for a specialist there or in the surrounding areas?

I'm at vitalab. Very happy there. They are cnr of grayston and rivonia - the glass building next to MacDonalds. Good luck. Phone now for an appt cause they tend to get very busy. All the best !

I' so sorry for what you have been through like Desperate C is saying make an appointment at Fertility clininc..... welcome to the forum hope you get your BFP soon

HI

good luck with TTC what you expirienced sounds like an early miscarriage particularly with the heavy bleeding.
has you gynea done blood tests on you? only then can he say you are normal also there are two people involved in TTC adnyou may be fine but DH may have the problem.

So defintly FS is the way to go it takes between 1 and 2 months to get an appt

welcome to OPM. Im so sorry to hear about what happened. I hope that you will find a good specialist and that you will get your Positive sooner than you expect xx

I went to Vitalab and was blessed with my two precious boys, thanks to them!

Hi There. Welcome to the group

welcome & good luck