Going down the Adoption route

Hi Everybody

My wife and I have recently gone through our second failed IVF attempt, and it looks like the chances of having our own child is very slim.

We have been discussing adoption, but we need more information. Can you perhaps send us information on the adoption process, and if possible, the likelyhood of adopting a white baby?

From what I can see, our chances dont look so good, but we have to start somewhere.

Is there a list of reputable adoption agencies that anyone knows about, or can someone point us in the right direction?

Thank you very much

Petrus

Hi Petrus and welcome to the forum.

I am sorry that you and your wife have to go down this road. I dont have any info with regards to adoption, but I hope that someone else here can help you. Also, send a PM to Nattie. SHe has been down this road and has a beautiful girl to show for it! Good luc!

Hi Petrus.
Welcome to the group. Good luck with the new route you will be taking

Hi Petrus,

Email me on hannahshope@24.com and I will send you all the information I have.

NEVER give up hope!!!! My husband and I are an example that adoption miracles DO happen. Our adoptive baby is being born within the next 3 months!!!! We waited for almost 3 years but it DID happen.

Warm regards

Hi Petrus and welcome to the forum.

All the best on the road ahead I'm sure there r ladies here that can point u in the right direction.

Welcome!

I am sorry to hear about your failed IVF attempts.

Good luck on the adoption route! Hope you get your bundle of joy.

Hi Petrus

We are also in the adoption process... good luck, a tough and hard road, but worth it at the end!

Thank you everybody for replying.

What is the difference in waiting when you want to adopt an older child vs a newborn?

I think a newborn is very "skaars".... they don't get adopted or available for adoption that often, exspecially the white babies. But and older child, must easier

Hi Dooi

Thanks for the prompt reply. If we are looking for older kids, should we also contact the social workers, or which route should we take?

Regards

I think going through the "right" paths of the adoption process is of utmost importance. The "on the side" stuff always gets you into situation you don't want to be in.

Im not following? What do you mean by the "on the side" stuff? Which is the right path to follow?

Hi Petrus,

I emailed you all the adoption information as requested.

Just a note from our experience: Whether you are adopting a white newborn or an older child, white children are extremely scarce and either way it just takes longer than with any other race. Obviously if you are willing to adopt a white child of 10+ years a child will be placed with you much quicker BUT the same selection criteria and processes apply.

It doesn't matter what way you look at it, adoption is an ardeous and intricate process BUT so worth it at the end!

Please let me know if you need any other information, I will gladly help.

Warm regards

Hi Hannah

Thank you very much for the information, I am busy going through it now.

Regards

Petrus

Always glad to help!

I know how difficult this road is, I had a zillion questions myself so it's great to be able to help someone else.

If you've got questions, fire away!!!

Warm regards